Saturday, May 5, 2007

Using Humour As Your Secret Weapon

by: Steve Armstrong

You’ve approached the object of your desires. You’ve got a first date. How do you carry it off and make sure she’s “hooked” on you?

I’ll let you in on the Master Seducer’s secret – humour.

If you can make a girl laugh and giggle, then most of the hard work of seduction is done. Why? Because laughing makes people happy – it releases endorphins in the brain which make us feel good. And we like being around people who make us feel good (makes sense, doesn’t it).

It is also the best form of relaxation – laughing is known to lower the heart rate. And if a girl feels happy and relaxed in your presence on a first date, then your 90% there.

It’s natural on a first date for the barriers to be up – she will be mentally screening you, checking you out. It can make for a very nervy encounter on both sides. But with the use of humour, you make her smile, make her laugh and she becomes relaxed and open. And that should be your goal for a first date.

So how should you use humour?

Well, I’m not advocating you be a clown. Don’t go overboard, and don’t just mindlessly memorise loads of jokes and reel them off – if she’d wanted to go and see a stand up comedian, she wouldn’t be on a date with you would she?

A few jokes are ok – pick yourself up a good joke book, or look online. Find a handful of good jokes and memorise them. Throw in one or two slightly risqué ones if you feel she is warming to you (but not overly smutty or chauvinistic)

Joke about your environment – the surroundings you are in.

Tell her funny stories and anecdotes about your past, your work, your experiences. Prepare in advance and think of these things in advance.

Watch comedies on television and hire some comedy and stand up comedy DVD’s. These will give you a few funny sketches you can reel off, plus they will help you “tune in” to being funny.

Remember, your aim when using humour is to make her smile, laugh and relax. You should be able to quickly assess what kind of things make her laugh and adjust your humour accordingly. You don’t want her rolling around on the floor, crying with laughter.

Learn how to put a woman at ease with humour and you will never have a problem seducing the woman of your dreams.

About the Author:
His website is at http://www.getthegirl.net

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