I am sure you have heard the claim that nice guys tend to have more difficulty meeting and attracting women. Or, maybe you have experienced it. Well, this statement is unfortunately not too far from the truth.
You have probably even read several reasons why this happens so I am not going to reiterate that here. Rather, I am going to give you a practical solution to better attract women and have some fun doing it-TEASE HER. Even if you are not really the "nice guy" but do carry that confident, alpha male personality, you may want to fine-tune your skills and give this a try.
Women generally view nice guys as uninterested, boring and providing absolutely no challenge. This is why these guys usually do not get too far with women since she eventually loses interest and many times before the first conversation has ended. Obviously, this is not going to help things progress in the direction you are hoping.
So, what do you do? You provide a subtle challenge to a woman yet without appearing to be an asshole or jerk. There is a fine-line between an interesting, challenging guy and a jerk which will have the opposite affect and turn her off. A good way to avoid crossing this line is to tease her.
Bringing humor into the conversation directed toward her not only shows her you have a sense of humor (which women love) but also makes you more interesting and challenging. The best approach is to treat her like a little sister by nicely teasing yet teasing her nonetheless.
Many guys are confused about the importance of humor in attracting women. They tend to ask why they should use it, why it is so important and why it works.
Let me explain...
As I have already said, women tend to view a man with a sense of humor as fun, interesting, challenging and far from boring. And, women like to be around interesting guys which is, of course, what you want. Projecting your humorous side allows you both to have a good time during the conversation, and more importantly, she will enjoy herself and have a good time. This makes her far more open to being around you at a later date which is a pre-requisite for things to progress to a date and even more.
This remains true even when your humor mostly revolves around teasing at her expense. Making fun of people is usually tagged with a negative connotation, for obvious reasons, but when it comes to attracting women you can use it positively and for your benefit. As counter-productive as this seems, it can really work when you are trying to pick-up a woman.
It is effective because it begins to build her attraction towards you. One reason is that you are not portraying the nice guy personality nor are you focused on pleasing her. Also, the conversation is far more interesting when you mix in your sense of humor which is an important factor by itself in attracting women. Remember, avoid boring!
Finally, it shifts the "pursuit" from you to her making her work for your attention rather than you trying to gain hers. Even though you may be, it is not really clear to her and keeps things challenging from her end.
A great way to tease a woman effectively is to call her out on things she says during the conversation. You can also start building some sexual chemistry by twisting some of her statements into subtle innuendos but, of course, you should not come on too strongly or it will turn her off. It might give her the wrong impression, but in the right amount, it is a good way to create more chemistry.
One reason you do not want to come on too strongly is because you want to keep her in a "subconscious state of limbo." You remain a challenge when she is not sure if you are into her or not. Women are attracted to a challenge when it comes to men and this provides just enough to make her work for your attention while the attraction is building at the same time.
Ultimately, following this advice above creates the perfect atmosphere for the attraction to build. You can open the door to progressing from initial attraction and beyond!
You have probably even read several reasons why this happens so I am not going to reiterate that here. Rather, I am going to give you a practical solution to better attract women and have some fun doing it-TEASE HER. Even if you are not really the "nice guy" but do carry that confident, alpha male personality, you may want to fine-tune your skills and give this a try.
Women generally view nice guys as uninterested, boring and providing absolutely no challenge. This is why these guys usually do not get too far with women since she eventually loses interest and many times before the first conversation has ended. Obviously, this is not going to help things progress in the direction you are hoping.
So, what do you do? You provide a subtle challenge to a woman yet without appearing to be an asshole or jerk. There is a fine-line between an interesting, challenging guy and a jerk which will have the opposite affect and turn her off. A good way to avoid crossing this line is to tease her.
Bringing humor into the conversation directed toward her not only shows her you have a sense of humor (which women love) but also makes you more interesting and challenging. The best approach is to treat her like a little sister by nicely teasing yet teasing her nonetheless.
Many guys are confused about the importance of humor in attracting women. They tend to ask why they should use it, why it is so important and why it works.
Let me explain...
As I have already said, women tend to view a man with a sense of humor as fun, interesting, challenging and far from boring. And, women like to be around interesting guys which is, of course, what you want. Projecting your humorous side allows you both to have a good time during the conversation, and more importantly, she will enjoy herself and have a good time. This makes her far more open to being around you at a later date which is a pre-requisite for things to progress to a date and even more.
This remains true even when your humor mostly revolves around teasing at her expense. Making fun of people is usually tagged with a negative connotation, for obvious reasons, but when it comes to attracting women you can use it positively and for your benefit. As counter-productive as this seems, it can really work when you are trying to pick-up a woman.
It is effective because it begins to build her attraction towards you. One reason is that you are not portraying the nice guy personality nor are you focused on pleasing her. Also, the conversation is far more interesting when you mix in your sense of humor which is an important factor by itself in attracting women. Remember, avoid boring!
Finally, it shifts the "pursuit" from you to her making her work for your attention rather than you trying to gain hers. Even though you may be, it is not really clear to her and keeps things challenging from her end.
A great way to tease a woman effectively is to call her out on things she says during the conversation. You can also start building some sexual chemistry by twisting some of her statements into subtle innuendos but, of course, you should not come on too strongly or it will turn her off. It might give her the wrong impression, but in the right amount, it is a good way to create more chemistry.
One reason you do not want to come on too strongly is because you want to keep her in a "subconscious state of limbo." You remain a challenge when she is not sure if you are into her or not. Women are attracted to a challenge when it comes to men and this provides just enough to make her work for your attention while the attraction is building at the same time.
Ultimately, following this advice above creates the perfect atmosphere for the attraction to build. You can open the door to progressing from initial attraction and beyond!
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