Using Humour As Your Secret Weapon

by: Steve Armstrong

You’ve approached the object of your desires. You’ve got a first date. How do you carry it off and make sure she’s “hooked” on you?

I’ll let you in on the Master Seducer’s secret – humour.

If you can make a girl laugh and giggle, then most of the hard work of seduction is done. Why? Because laughing makes people happy – it releases endorphins in the brain which make us feel good. And we like being around people who make us feel good (makes sense, doesn’t it).

It is also the best form of relaxation – laughing is known to lower the heart rate. And if a girl feels happy and relaxed in your presence on a first date, then your 90% there.

It’s natural on a first date for the barriers to be up – she will be mentally screening you, checking you out. It can make for a very nervy encounter on both sides. But with the use of humour, you make her smile, make her laugh and she becomes relaxed and open. And that should be your goal for a first date.

So how should you use humour?

Well, I’m not advocating you be a clown. Don’t go overboard, and don’t just mindlessly memorise loads of jokes and reel them off – if she’d wanted to go and see a stand up comedian, she wouldn’t be on a date with you would she?

A few jokes are ok – pick yourself up a good joke book, or look online. Find a handful of good jokes and memorise them. Throw in one or two slightly risqué ones if you feel she is warming to you (but not overly smutty or chauvinistic)

Joke about your environment – the surroundings you are in.

Tell her funny stories and anecdotes about your past, your work, your experiences. Prepare in advance and think of these things in advance.

Watch comedies on television and hire some comedy and stand up comedy DVD’s. These will give you a few funny sketches you can reel off, plus they will help you “tune in” to being funny.

Remember, your aim when using humour is to make her smile, laugh and relax. You should be able to quickly assess what kind of things make her laugh and adjust your humour accordingly. You don’t want her rolling around on the floor, crying with laughter.

Learn how to put a woman at ease with humour and you will never have a problem seducing the woman of your dreams.

About the Author:
His website is at http://www.getthegirl.net

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How To Act On A First Date - Advice For Men

There are tons of free dating sites and free advice from people who offer first date tips and online dating information, but very few that address the issue of how to act on a first date.

Contrary to what you may have read on this topic, you must educate yourself from reputable experts in this field who can document their success.

Women Are More Intuitive Than Men

They can tell from their female intuition whether or not you're not in control of your emotions, if you're nervous, or you're not comfortable in your own skin. When you're on a first date, she's probably nervous too because she feels your emotions. I call it "woman radar" and its unavoidable.

Be Fun, And Allow Yourself To Have No Expectations On Your First Date

Women want a man who can lead, be calm and make her laugh. If you can act this natural without being needy and "leaning in" too much, both of you will feel at ease with each other and enjoy the first date better.

Wing The Experience, but set a time limit for yourself

Go to a coffee shop, go shopping in a local mall. This will allow both of you to escape and flee if the chemistry isn't there. Be positive. Flirt. End the date unexpectedly but in a friendly way. In other words, don't allow the first date to continue more than an hour and a half. Why?

This first date tip will set the tone for you, and she will see a man who is busy, you have things to do. Just make sure that you do this in a friendly way, smile, and tell HER to call YOU! You'll leave her wanting more.

Avoid The Boring Topics, Places And Conversations and never complain.

Dinner and a movie? No. I tell all my clients never to make a date like that until after the 4th date as a nonnegotiable dating rule. Why? Ever tried talking during a movie or getting to know someone when you can't hear them talk?

Find somewhere unique and in a public setting. If you think she's the type to appreciate expensive dinners and fancy restaurants, take her to the mall food court. Seriously. This is probably the last place that she would expect you to take her, because if she's a woman of exceptional beauty, you're probably the only man who didn't give into her demands! She'll welcome the change, and will appreciate your confidence. Get it?

Keep Your Manners, Be Cool And Lean Back

Lastly as one of the most prickles first date tips you'll ever hear- lean back. Whatever happens- happens. If you ever observe other men, they are leaning towards the women. This is great to do after you have spent more than an hour getting to know her, but leaning in to early or to often will telegraph to much interest, and it will make her feel uncomfortable.

If you practice these tips to mentally improve yourself, you will find this changes lots of your choices, and your dates will go a lot smoother and the whole dating experience will be more enjoyable for the both of you.

By: Grant Freeman

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